This woman turned her 'date from hell' into a beautiful rallying cry for women everywhere.

We've all been on bad dates before.

I  still remember the guy who adopted a British accent halfway during our first date and then pretended he had no idea what I was talking about.

Or the dude who shot me a multitude of horrified glances as I sang through the entirety of "Dreamgirls." Wait, maybe I was the bad date that time? (Does it help if we were the only ones in the movie theater?) (Okay, sorry.)


Few of us have had dates as bad as Ryann Miller. Her date wasn't just awkward or a little bit rude. He was the kind of shamey mess that makes people grateful to be single.

Photo via Ryann Miller.

Miller, a new California transplant, went on a date with a guy she met on Bumble. But while she was ready for a nice night out with a single in her area, this man (let's call him Brandon because that's his name) decided that he had other plans.

In a twitter thread that documented the date from its humble and unpleasant beginnings to its embarrassingly disastrous end, Miller laid out all of the red flags that Brandon exhibited — from making things all about himself, to being rude to the server.  (Which is actually a really great way of telling if someone's a quality person. Jot that down for your next date: If they're mean to the waiter on your first date, just imagine what they'll be like when they're not putting their best foot forward.)

The red flags just keep piling up, don't they? There's nothing that tells someone you're "interested in their opinion" and "open to a variety of viewpoints" than asking if you've done something wrong, being presented with evidence of your bad behavior, and then going on to dismiss it out of hand because people just can't handle your "straight shooting" and "brutal honesty" and "eccentric sense of humor" or whatever else we're using to justify our lack of social skills and vehement refusal to do anything about them.

The beginning of the date was bad, but what happened next was downright illegal. And that's not even the worst of it.

After being subjected to Brandon's personality for an entire dinner, Miller was overjoyed when he ventured off to the bathroom for a second. But then he never came back.

First: The dine-and-dash is a crime that comes with penalties in California and the fact that Brandon stuck Miller with a $50 bill (when she writes that she only had a $6 beer) is a huge problem.

But Miller isn't particularly worried about that. In fact, over DM she told Welcometoterranova that she blocked Brandon on all forms of social media immediately after their date. And while she had to ask her sister and her sister's best friend help her pay the bill, it's a small price to pay for never having to see this guy again.

Second, and most importantly: I don't think I'm going out on a limb when I say that Brandon's message to Miller is one of the most insulting things many of us have ever read.

And Miller isn't alone. Based on the overwhelming support she's been receiving, it's clear that this kind of shaming, misogynistic behavior is not limited to just this one bad date. It happens every day and it's got to stop.

Miller had an important message for anyone who may have dealt with anything similiar:

"I didn’t do this to shame him," Miller told Welcometoterranova.

"This wasn’t for revenge, I really just wanted to remind all the girls out there that we don’t have to put up with anything we don’t deserve. I should have gotten up and left way before it got to that point."

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Brantley and his snowman

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"Would you like to build a snowman?" If you asked five-year-old Brantley from Texas this question, the answer would be a resounding "Yes!" While it may sound like a simple dream, since Texas doesn't usually see much snow, it seemed like a lofty one for him, even more so because Brantley has a congenital heart disease.

On Dec. 11, 2019, however, the real Macy's Santa and his two elves teamed up with Make-A-Wish to surprise Brantley and his family on his way to Colorado where there was plenty of snow for him to build his very own snowman, fulfilling his wish as part of the Macy's Believe campaign. After a joy-filled plane ride where every passenger got gift bags from Macy's, the family arrived in Breckenridge, Colorado where Santa and his elves helped Brantley build a snowman.

Brantley, Brantley's mom, and Santa marveling at their snowmanAll photos courtesy of Macy's

Brantley, who according to his mom had never actually seen snow, was blown away by the experience.

"Well, I had to build a snowman because snowmen are my favorite," Brantley said in an interview with Summit Daily. "All of it was my favorite part."

This is just one example of the more than 330,000 wishes the nonprofit Make-A-Wish have fulfilled to bring joy to children fighting critical illnesses since its founding 40 years ago. Even though many of the children that Make-A-Wish grants wishes for manage or overcome their illnesses, they often face months, if not years of doctor's visits, hospital stays and uncomfortable treatments. The nonprofit helps these children and their families replace fear with confidence, sadness with joy and anxiety with hope.

It's hardly an outlandish notion — research shows that a wish come true can help increase these children's resiliency and improve their quality of life. Brantley is a prime example.

"This couldn't have come at a better time because we see all the hardships that we went through last year," Brantley's mom Brandi told Summit Daily.

Brantley playing with snowballs

Now more than ever, kids with critical illnesses need hope. Since they're particularly vulnerable to disease, they and their families have had to isolate even more during the pandemic and avoid the people they love most and many of the activities that recharge them. That's why Make-A-Wish is doing everything it can to fulfill wishes in spite of the unprecedented obstacles.

That's where you come in. Macy's has raised over $132 million for Make-A-Wish, and helped grant more than 15,500 wishes since their partnership began in 2003, but they couldn't have done that without the support of everyday people. The crux of that support comes from Macy's Believe Campaign — the longstanding holiday fundraising effort where for every letter to Santa that's written online at Macys.com or dropped off safely at the red Believe mailbox at their stores, Macy's will donate $1 to Make-A-Wish, up to $1 million. New this year, National Believe Day will be expanded to National Believe Week and will provide customers the opportunity to double their donations ($2 per letter, up to an additional $1 million) for a full week from Sunday, Nov. 29 through Saturday, Dec. 5.

There are more ways to support Make-A-Wish besides letter-writing too. If you purchase a $4 Believe bracelet, $2 of each bracelet will be donated to Make-A-Wish through Dec. 31. And for families who are all about the holiday PJs, on Giving Tuesday (Dec. 1), 20 percent of the purchase price of select family pajamas will benefit Make-A-Wish.

Elizabeth living out her wish of being a fashion designer

Additionally, this year's campaign features 6-year-old Elizabeth, a Make-A-Wish child diagnosed with leukemia, whose wish to design a dress recently came true. Thanks to the style experts at Macy's Fashion Office and I.N.C. International Concepts, only at Macy's, Elizabeth had the opportunity to design a colorful floral maxi dress. Elizabeth's exclusive design is now available online at Macys.com and in select Macy's stores. In the spirit of giving back this holiday season, 20 percent of the purchase price of Elizabeth's dress (through Dec. 31) will benefit Make-A-Wish.You can also donate directly to Make-A-Wish via Macy's website.

This holiday season may be a tough one this year, but you can bring joy to children fighting critical illnesses by delivering hope for their wishes to come true.

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A lot of people here are like family to me," Michelle says about Bread for the City — a community nonprofit located in Washington DC that provides local residents with food, clothing, health care, social advocacy, and legal services. And since the pandemic began, the need to support organizations like Bread for the City is greater than ever, which is why Amazon is Delivering Smiles to local charities across the country this holiday season.

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Amazon is giving back by fulfilling hundreds of AmazonSmile Charity Lists, and donating essential pantry and food items to help organizations like Bread for the City provide to those disproportionately impacted this year.

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